[00:00:00] Sydney: Hey, this is Nikki and Sydney, and this is episode 69 fall in love with the grind and results. We’ll follow. this is fearless wellness, a podcast that has made for women who are experiencing hormone issues and who are feeling overwhelmed.
[00:00:16] Nikki: Here we will give you bite-sized tips to help you balance your hormones and nourish your body. So you can have more energy, and happiness. we’re your hosts, Nikki Walton.
[00:00:26] Sydney: And Sydney.
[00:00:28] Nikki: We want to be your health coaches. Ready? Let’s go.
[00:00:32] Sydney: So in order to talk a little bit more about, the grind, I wanted to talk about Kobe Bryant. He, uh, was an amazing basketball player and he had a lot of success.
[00:00:46] He had a lot of awards, a lot of wins, a lot of talent, a lot of skills, a lot of results. You could look at his life and be like he had a lot of really amazing results in his life. And the analogy that I’d like to draw to from that, to what we do with nutritional therapy is that a lot of times. All of us in our lives would like to have results that a lot of us are in love with the idea.
[00:01:15] We think it’s very attractive to have all of these results in our lives. So things like people want to lose weight. People want to have energy. People wanna have less mood swings. People want to. Um, they want to get better. They want to not have so so much sickness. They wanna have, uh, less bloating and digestive issues.
[00:01:40] They wanna have less Harbor and they wanna have, you know, these are all things that are really good. They they’re things we want. They’re things that we wanna be able to stay alive longer. Be able to see our grandkids and our great grandkids and be able to be active enough to enjoy them. These are all, these are all results. And the thing that I am trying to draw the analogy to here is that in order to get results, you, you have to fall in love with the process that gets you those results. So just a couple of quotes from Kobe Bryant about the efforts that it takes to be able to get the kind of results that he got in his life.
[00:02:19] Here’s a couple of quotes from him. He said we’re up here because this is at a, an award ceremony we’re up here because we had a dream and let nothing stand in our way. If anything tried to bring us down, we used it to make us stronger. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t come down to who has the most talent or intelligence.
[00:02:39] It comes down to, who’s willing to make the choices. That others are not willing to make. So in, in, in the example of nutritional therapy is that we do have dreams. We all have dreams of things that we want to achieve in our health and wellness journey. And, and in order to really have results follow you really gotta start falling in love with making the choices that it takes to get. Um, he also said, um, who’s willing to shoot baskets in the dark when everyone else is sleeping. And he also said, if the dream is big, the game changes. Which is great. I think that having, having the right dream is the place we start and then falling in love with the process that gets us there is where we go next.
[00:03:26] So he also said the four AMS and two days become intentional choices. The hard things. Really easy, uncomfortable things become routine. So it’s kind of funny when you think about this, what he’s saying. And, and I like actually really like his next quote, people will say you’re obsessed. You’re not normal.
[00:03:45] And they’re right, because it’s not a normal journey. And when I think about this quote, I think about this standard American results, the standard American diet, the standard American health, and, and when somebody says I’m obsessed, Nutritional therapy or good food or whatever it is, uh, or that I’m not normal.
[00:04:05] They are right. Uh, because I’m not on a normal journey, I don’t really want the normal standard results. And, and so another quote from him is the idea is that if you have a big dream, Then you have to fall in love with doing things that others won’t do to accomplish what others can’t. So that’s a little, just a little fun quote from Kobe Bryant and to help you understand what we’re talking about, when we say that you need to fall in love with the grind and the results will follow.
[00:04:40] So. Nikki, what are like, what are some examples that you know of that have people that like want, what are some results that people want in their lives?
[00:04:49] Nikki: Well, just like you said, they want to, most people just wanna lose weight. like they have all these, they have all these side things that they’re working on, but, but most people that I’ve seen their first priority is losing weight. some people, their priority is gaining muscle, um, or having more energy.
[00:05:08] increasing their ability to focus or, trying to have more stable moods. But yeah, most people, most people just wanna lose weight.
[00:05:18] Sydney: And how does that fit into like the, the Dr. The drivers? So like, if you, if there was a client that you had that did want to lose weight, and that was like their primary focus, like, what would you have to say about that?
[00:05:30] Nikki: It’s it’s hard because you want, you wanna help them reach their goals, but, um, but then you also want to help them reach their goals. if that makes sense. It’s like, it’s like they say they wanna lose weight, but I help them frame it in such a way where they understand that weight is just the biggest indicator that there’s something not.
[00:05:54] Going on that needs to be going on or too much of something going on that shouldn’t be going on. It’s just, it’s, there’s, something’s out of balance. Quite visually. There is something that’s out of balance. And so I just try to help people understand like, Hey yeah, weight loss is important, but I, but correct me if I’m wrong, but I think it’s more, most important to you because it’s just an indicator of the underlying issues of.
[00:06:20] Of, you know, whatever it is that, um, comes up in their paperwork.
[00:06:24] Sydney: I love it.
[00:06:25] Nikki: so like yeah. Redirect them to their, their energy and their, um, their anxiety, their depression, their pain, their sleep, their, all the other things that are a lot more, um, a lot more exciting in my opinion than weight.
[00:06:42] Sydney: Yeah, I love it. And, and when you’re trying to kind of, when you’re talking about helping a client to see. See the value in more than just weight loss because, uh, weight loss is. Maybe an indicator that something is going on, that they might need that, but then drawing their attention to other things that they’re like.
[00:07:00] Yeah. Actually I do really care about that. I do care about my sleep. I do care about my energy. I do care about my, um, stomach feeling better. I, you know, all of those things maybe are, are a little bit like trying to help them catch the vision of the end goal, because then it helps them in the process to, to kind of stick with it, even when they hit their weight goal.
[00:07:19] Right. Like they, they wanna keep feeling good. They wanna. doing all those long term things. Right.
[00:07:26] Nikki: Yeah. I mean, because you, I see it every single time after a client, after we work together for like a month. Inevitably everybody always lose weight, loses weight. It just, it just happens. It just happens when you start to do, when you start to just focus on the basics. But then if you, if you don’t have another goal at the beginning, besides weight loss, like a more, a more exciting goal, a more long-term goal then yeah.
[00:07:52] After that first 10 pounds, after that first 15 pounds, inevitably, it’s just human behavior to be like, yep, I got this. I’m good. It’s like, well, you know, you had the initial weight loss, but in order to keep it off or in order to keep going, there’s a lot more, that’s, there’s a lot more going on underneath the surface that we need to focus on.
[00:08:14] Sydney: I love it. I, it, so I have a little of my own story of how
[00:08:19] falling in love with the process of taking care of my body and giving it what it needs. had some results just naturally follow. So here’s kind of the background to it my kids were sick all the time. And a few people gave me some tips or whatever.
[00:08:36] They were like, Hey, did you know that you could use this? And it’s like a, a more natural way to treat that. So if they had an ear infection or a cough or a sore throat or whatever, it was all the things that they were getting sick with all the time. I could use these things, um, that are more natural.
[00:08:54] They’re not gonna, it’s gonna cost me less money. So I was like driven a little bit by like, I didn’t wanna go pay for the doctor all the time. And also I wanted to, uh, not be giving them a bunch of antibiotics all the time. So I had a couple of drivers like that. Like I want them to be healthier. I don’t wanna go to the doctor all the time.
[00:09:10] So I started using them and they were effective and I really liked them. but I was also busier. I felt like they didn’t get sick any less often. And so I was just using all my natural remedies to help them. If you are interested in what some of those are. I, we have an ebook for sale on our website, for some of those things that throughout the years I collected and used and loved.
[00:09:34] So if you have kids or yourself that get sick a lot, uh, check that out. But then. what happened next is I feel like I had more people come into my life that were telling me more things like, did you know that, you know, this, Can cause you to get sick less often or gut health can cause you to, uh, improving your gut health can help brain development and whatever. So my son had just recently been diagnosed with a D D and I thought, okay, well, this is like, yeah, I think this is our next step. We need to, to try this out. So I started, I, I read books.
[00:10:07] I researched online. I, and I just jumped head first into doing a really good gut. Protocol and that when we did that, so when we changed that a lot of things changed, a lot of results started happening that I wasn’t expecting. And one of them was that my kids just stopped getting sick in the first place.
[00:10:26] So instead of using my natural remedies all the time, every time, every, for every symptom and every time they got sick, I. ended up having results in that they just didn’t get sick as nearly as often. And that the natural remedies worked way better when they did get sick. Nikki, do you have any things like that where you just started a process of taking care of yourself in your life?
[00:10:45] And some results just followed. You’re like, awesome. I didn’t know that was gonna happen or.
[00:10:50] Nikki: Oh like side benefits of things that I wasn’t planning on
[00:10:53] Sydney: Yeah. Or even if you were planning on having them happen, where you’re just fell in love with the process of choosing good food, healing, your gut, you know what I mean? Like making choices to get toxins out of your house and your life. And then you’re like, you kind of fell in love with that process.
[00:11:09] And then, and then some, you, you notice some results just naturally follow.
[00:11:13] Nikki: that’s a, that’s a hard question because it’s like you, when you first start to make any change, it’s like, it’s not fun.
[00:11:21] Sydney: mm-hmm
[00:11:21] Nikki: it’s not fun at all. I remember a lot of. a lot of changes that we first started to make. I was like, downright terrified.
[00:11:29] Sydney: mm-hmm
[00:11:30] Nikki: like, we just had this. If you guys didn’t join us.
[00:11:33] Um, this last week, at the end of the month, we had a week long of no sugar challenge. And I just remember as a, as we were taking through everyone through this challenge, I was just reflecting on the first time that I stopped eating white flour and white sugar. And I had committed to myself to do it for two weeks.
[00:11:55] And the first week I woke up and I was panicked, I was so scared. I was like, I felt like I was, I felt like I was go walking off a bridge. I don’t know how else to describe it, but it was just this big. Unknown that I was taking a leap of faith in trying out, because I was so desperate. My son had similar like ADHD issues.
[00:12:23] I had so many issues going on and I’m like, okay, this is our last resort. We’ve tried everything, but this, and so um, and so I. I did it for the first couple of weeks. And I didn’t even, I mean, I was still making my desserts, but I was just not making them with white flour and white sugar. And, uh, it was the results were.
[00:12:46] Astounding. And that like the fact that I could feel something different than what I had felt for years in the way of energy or mood or anxiety or depression, the fact that we could notice anything, any little different positive change in my three year old son at the time, I was like, okay, well, I’m willing to try this longer.
[00:13:08] And, and it didn’t get any. Easier, like you said, it’s like it initially was very time consuming to just make so many changes in the hopes that something would happen. Um, but in the process, the cool thing that I noticed is that it gave so much structure to our lives in ways that I didn’t know was possible.
[00:13:35] And in ways that freed me up. in other aspects of my life. Like when I wasn’t faced daily with the idea of what am I gonna make for dinner? when you eat, when you eat real foods, you have to plan ahead. and it was so nice to have that forced upon me so that I could see the benefits of it. And so that I could learn to love the benefits and then also experience the side benefits or results that I wasn’t expecting. in the process. And so, um, one of those side benefits that I also noticed too, was our family became so much closer we chose like as our family, I guess every family is different, but. Our kids were young at the time. And so, and we were, we were pretty desperate. I mean, we were, we were in a very desperate, desperate situation when it came to my health.
[00:14:30] And so I really couldn’t do it on my own. I had to have a lot of help. And so my husband and I, and we had two kids at the time, um, or one, and then another one on the way we did this effort as a family and we were living close to my parents. And so they also by. By location. we’re doing this with us as well.
[00:14:52] And it just created so much family togetherness because we weren’t, we weren. We couldn’t be as rushed with our food. And so we had to take the time to do this together and the structure and the growth and the love in the family was something that I was not expecting. Um, but definitely enjoyed those results.
[00:15:18] Sydney: I love it. I I’m thinking of clients. Some that. Worked with and, and helping them to see the shift of, of like, if you’re only focused on results and not focused on enjoying. So maybe let me back up and say, With anybody with me, with anybody. I think that the, the very first driver, the very first motivation that we have is we want results.
[00:15:46] We’re like, I’m tired of being tired. I’m tired of not losing weight. I’m tired of, you know, fill in the blank that that’s like, step one. But then what we’re suggesting is that the step two, the very important step two is to. To kind of like set this results aside for a minute and focus on learning to love, doing the work of taking care of your body.
[00:16:12] And then usually you get to the results naturally in some way, even more than you expected. Like Nikki, I love the example of your family growing closer because of it. So like I have had clients where it’s hard to move past, focusing on results. become, to love the process of taking care of yourself to, to sitting aside time for yourself.
[00:16:33] I think that that’s actually one of the most important things that a client or anybody could do is just valuing, taking time to take care of yourself. And that’s like probably the very first part of loving that grind is to just the take the time to. Able and willing to commit to planning a meal, to be able to go to the grocery store, to be able to, um, take time to, to make a meal and then take time to sit down and slow down and eat it and chew it and enjoy it.
[00:17:07] That all of that seems like step one is okay. I want some different results. Step two is okay. We gotta start falling in love with that process, which means. Taking time to take care of yourself and, and it, uh, it does take time and it takes doing things differently. And when you’re focusing just on results, it can be really easy to hate the process because they’re like, I haven’t lost a pound yet. So you’re stressing and you’re hating the process of making your own food. And you’re kind of like annoyed with that whole, like the grind, like we like to call it, but it’s actually possible to fall in love with that process. It’s possible to be like, I love planning my meals because it makes my week so much easier.
[00:17:53] I. I love grocery shopping. It makes me so happy to go and put all these, collect all these foods. I feel like it’s a treasure hunt to find all of these nurturing foods and putting ’em in my cart, or I love making a meal at home. I was, I was traveling for like two weeks and it made me so sad. What, every time my foot could finally get to like a kitchen, I was like, yay.
[00:18:14] Making food. I loved making food. It was so fun. I would put on music and just make food and then sit down and eat it and enjoy it. I. Loved it. Um, like those are just a few examples of how falling in love with the process of taking care of yourself is gonna help you naturally get to results much more easily.
[00:18:32] So like for example, if, if you wanted to create a lifestyle shift like we did with our week of no sugar where we eat less sweets and we eat more savory foods, An example of falling in love with that process would be changing what you think about it instead of like, I can’t have sugar, it makes you feel desperate.
[00:18:51] It makes you feel like, like you were talking about NA you know, when you were waking up on that first date and you’re like, I’m on a cliff and I have to like jump off this cliff. It feels desperate. And you’re like, I can’t have sugar and. But then like shifting over to like, I don’t even, like, I can have sugar anytime I want, but I don’t really want it.
[00:19:09] I really crave foods that are savory and satisfying. Like, would you say that’s true now for you, Nikki? Like, would you say now? Yeah, I can have sugar anytime I want, but, but I don’t really want it. Is that true for you?
[00:19:21] Nikki: Yeah, absolutely. I have no idea when it happened. like, I can’t, I can’t like name a day or a month or a week when I, all of a sudden was freed from my desire to have sugar and, and I’m not, and I don’t say, and I wouldn’t say that I’m, that I’m totally free from it, right. Because we’re not, I don’t live in a vacuum, But there are so many like 20 different steps that happened in my mind that would, that would have to happen before I would actually like make something or, or eat something or buy something that would be, that would be harmful to me personally.
[00:20:02] I don’t know about, I don’t know about everybody. Like I have the reactions that I, that I still have to things that my body doesn’t want, or it can’t handle in the moment. I they’re so obvious now to where it such an easy decision. and my lifestyle is so different now to where I like, for example, um, I can’t, it was like a couple of weeks ago that I was like, I think I was, it was something really stressful was going on and I just really wanted a batch of cookies cuz that’s like my childhood comfort of all time. And it was so funny because I was like, oh, I just want a batch of cookies. And then I was like, oh, wait a second. I don’t have any of the ingredients. that’s what I’m talking about. I have these thoughts and then like, it would take a lot of effort for me to go back to something that would, that would derail my health just because I don’t live that way anymore.
[00:21:03] same thing with eating out like the, we have, we have such a, we have a lifestyle I, I don’t even know about all of the different things that are available, like at fast food restaurants or things like that. It’s like the, when we do go out to eat, we have this really fun way of picking the restaurants where we eat, even, even when we’re on the road, that it would take a lot of effort to go to a restaurant that only serve.
[00:21:26] Food, that would be really harmful to our bodies. but I do have to say when I do, when I have had experiences where I have had those foods, that aren’t good for me personally, it is just not a satisfying experience.
[00:21:44] Sydney: Ah,
[00:21:44] Nikki: I was speaking with a client this morning. I love that he, he shared.
[00:21:49] His experience as well. He, he finished the reset and then decided to keep going with it for another three or four weeks. And then he went out to dinner, um, and he decided, and this is so normal and natural. You guys, this is pretty much everyone that I can think of. The thinking is I have been so good. So I deserve to.
[00:22:09] Something for it. but instead of rewarding yourself with like a new pair of shoes or with a going out to a movie or something, we all just reward ourselves with sugar, with self sabotage. And so he went out to dinner with his friends and he decided I’m not gonna get the bread. I’m gonna pass on all of the sugary sides, but I am gonna get a dessert because this is my favorite restaurant and I’ve been so good.
[00:22:35] And so they get the dessert menu out and , he was so mad because there was nothing on the dessert menu that he liked. And he’s like, and this is my favorite restaurant and it’s a nice restaurant. And so it was so dumb that there was nothing on the menu, nothing on the dessert menu that I wanted to eat.
[00:22:50] And so he was like, but I had already decided that I deserved it. And so when I got home, I found something in my freezer. That I’d had from six weeks earlier from before I started working with you and I ate it right before I went to bed and he slept horribly slept horribly. And his tummy was hurting all night long and, and he, and it had been five days since he had it.
[00:23:18] And he still isn’t sleeping
[00:23:19] Sydney: What a blessing I love it.
[00:23:24] Nikki: That’s what I thought. That’s what I thought. I’m like, those are the lessons that I, that I relish speaking of food because I, because I don’t have anything to do with them. It’s just, it’s the body doing what the body does. And those are the best kinds of lessons.
[00:23:36] Sydney: Absolutely. Well, so just as a recap, we hope that all of you. Have something in your life that you want to work towards, that that is motivating for you to, to really start to fall in love with the grind and then fall, and then do the work to fall in love with the grind. We have something that we’ve been working on for a while.
[00:23:58] That is going to be released some time and this, uh, upcoming fall. And if you want to just be aware of it, we want you to join our email list. And also, I don’t know if all of you. Participated in what we have to offer for free on our website. There’s a, what we call the sugar bundle. So if you want to be sure to sign up for our weekly email and also get the digital package, it’s the sugar bundle.
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[00:24:39] Thanks for joining us. We’ll see you next week.
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